Recognition/Discernment VS Identification/Judgement

(upbeat music) Welcome to Synchronicity, second solo cast of the week, but you know, when it's flowing and you've got stuff, you know, here's the real reason, there's two of them this week, is I figured some shit out that has really been maybe the biggest stumbling block of my entire life in terms of realizing what's actually going on in this reality in relation to other things. Right, which is you, they're mirrors, but sometimes those mirrors really seem like other people, and sometimes it's great they seem like other people, because it's fine, and they should, and that's what's going on too, but, you know, the right this down is easily as possible.

Sometimes in the world you see something, someone doing something that you don't agree with, or you have a different perspective on, and sometimes that's really not that big of a deal, sometimes it's hugely wrong in justice, and that brings up a range of emotions and reactions, and we can see that in our own lives and the lives of other people. But for me, a trigger point, and this is kind of the blessing of being triggered by stuff and getting upset, and recognizing that you're getting upset by things or reacting in a certain way, it doesn't just have to be getting upset, it could be getting hurt, or scared, or fearful.

But when those things come up, it's actually an opportunity to work on something that's popping up for a reason, not because it's bad, but because you're supposed to kind of deal with it. But one of those things for me was when I would see people, I don't know, taking advantage, I'm trying to figure out a word, yeah, taking advantage of other people, especially in a spiritual context, and that's a big old vein that can be exported in its whole, its own episode, but essentially parroting new age axioms or spiritual, you know, anyone can read a roomy quote, and go read the roomy quote, and it's still packed with wisdom, and there's amazing truth to it, but take it from someone who really loved roomy and would put out quotes all the time.

Even then, like, I got the resonant message of it, that's why I was putting it out, but I understand, I really didn't get it, I didn't fully understand it, so partially this is me dealing with former versions of myself who speculated and didn't understand. So I recognize there's always a kernel of something someone's reacting to, or resonating with, but let's be honest, there are also out in the world aspects of ourselves that are pushed out that don't fully understand this yet in linear time, and are using some of these terminologies or understandings for personal ego-based, let's just say fear-based reasons, and it used to very much get under my skin and bother me, and I saw it behind the scenes, and I see it overtly, and I see it around circles I'm connected to, and I used to get really, really upset at people, and even if I didn't outwardly express it, sometimes there'd be, like, a salty subtweet or something, but even if I didn't outwardly express it, it was internally festering inside of me, and this happens to all of us in our relationships with people we're close to and then just people from afar.

Again, I use him all the time because he's a really good example, like Donald Trump is this for a lot of people, especially people on a certain age demographic, like he's their trigger point, like, "Oh, fuck this guy, I can't stand it." But what I realize is there's some dance we're doing here, and it has to do with recognition and discernment in one category, and versus identifying and judging. And I'm going to explain this with the solution to these issues that I've found very powerful, because I think what we do sometimes when we see, when we understand the concept that we're all one and that everything is unconditional love, we sometimes want to extend that unconditional love to people who maybe are prone to taking advantage of that, and that's a problem.

It's like, you know, that lesson of like hurting yourself to learn things is good, like the first few thousand times, but then after that, it's not. So we want to be able to identify situations where we can recognize what's going on, but not identify with the situation or our reaction to it. And we also want to make sure that we're being discerning so we can choose what we want to do in the relationships we want to have and the things we want to be in the world and dream and imagine. But we don't want to judge other people or ourselves for something. And so I'm going to break this down as best as I can understand it. And I'm going to use an example of something I see commonly in, let's say, the new age, let's say the modern spiritual world.

A lot of times people will, again, put up a quote, speak about something like unconditional love and, you know, use it to essentially build a brand. And I get it. It's effective. People respond to it. Sometimes people have trouble distinguishing what's going on below the surface in people's intentions. So it's an attractive force. So in the past, when I would see someone do that, I would, I would get upset and I would react internally, and it was just not a pleasant situation. I know I'm judging and feeling weird and I know it's not really their fault, but I still feel weird, it created like a tension spot.

So what I recognized that I was doing is I was identifying with the opposite polarity of their position. I was like, people shouldn't take advantage of other people. That is fucked up. It's an unfair energy exchange. And I'd position myself on one end. And then once you identify, it's really easy to start judging and condemning. And we know the axiom, whatever you condemn, you become whatever you love, you become. So this is what I started doing. When I recognized the person doing something that I didn't like and I'm truthfully not judging, just recognizing it and be like, okay, that's maybe not what we should do.

Rather than slipping into it and judging, I am discerning about my reaction and implant a better version of that person. My conception of them creates that person partially, especially if you have a very strong imagination, what you believe of other people, if they're not there, you're basically casting a spell on them and creating it for them. And that should be a wake-up call to people who understand this or about to understand it because that's fucking new boy. You could be creating states and people unintentionally because you have a strong imagination. So when I notice someone who is doing something I don't approve of, rather than identifying and judging, I will replace a version and conception of my head with someone who's doing the right thing, someone who wakes up, someone who gets, you know, I don't come up with the means, just the end situation of them being like, oh, I'm so happy I figured it out. You basically send them love. You send a loving, amazing version of them to the person.

Worst case scenario, you send this version to them. They're not capable of imagining it. It comes back and it hits you. So it's like a present to yourself, right? A gift unopened is returned to sender, so you get it. So do it lovingly. What we tend to do if we slip into identifying and judging is we'll come up with a version of the person who's kind of a shithead. And if they are a shithead, we're just reinforcing their shitheadness. But if they're not a shithead, it bounces off of them. If they can't imagine being a shithead or other people, it bounces off them and hits us. And then all of a sudden we're kind of a shithead. And the thing that we condemned in them, we then express. And this happens all the time, and I'm sure people are familiar with this, but it's just kind of how things work.

So again, we're moving from recognition. We're moving from identifying with something saying, "Okay, I am against that. I am for that." It's not that you don't have awareness, subjective and objective awareness of right and wrong. We're in duality partially, so we should have that, right? We're going to punch in people in the face. That's not what we're doing. So we do want to have the discernment and recognition of what's going on, but we do not want to identify with something and then judge it. Every time we slip into that, we fuck up. Trust me, it pushes the way, the state that you actually want.

And everyone who we don't like has some quality, probably many qualities that we do like, but we're getting lost in the shuffle because we're replacing this version of them in our mind, maybe potentially creating it. And that's not cool. That's not helpful for them. It's not helpful for you. And it's just an easy thing to fix. You send them love in a better version. Don't have to worry about how it happens, right? It could be for Donald Trump. It could be for anyone. I started doing this, and the only alchemy I can tell you happens is you just stop giving a shit. You stop caring so much about what other people are doing, which in and of itself is probably the best part of it, but the truth is imagination.

The truth is, is imagination does precede materiality. Your conception of them will be expressed in the world to the degree you understand this. So make sure you're not going around in, you know, thinking of people a certain way, because if your imagination is strong, you really are creating that. I know that sounds crazy, but if you understand the I and I, if you understand the unconditioned I am awareness, you understand this is true. It is. It's crazy. It was true. I should stop saying it's crazy. It's not crazy. I say endearingly. I hope people understand that. It's wonderful is what it is. So that's recognition, discernment, first identifying and judging.

Play this back as many times. I'm going to listen to myself say this because I've been thinking about it in my head. And then when I clicked, I was like, I got to get this out. So I never listen to it. That's basically what this podcast is, just to be clear. Rate and review the show. Send it to someone who could use this. If you know someone who's getting caught in the difference between recognition and discernment and versus identifying and judging, send it to them. Even if they can't consciously hear this, it subconsciously sinks in the deep aspects of their being. That's what's going on. If you find, for some reason, you like what I'm saying, but you don't understand it or you think there's something there and you're not quite getting it.

That's why part of you is totally getting it. Don't worry. It's all good. So tarot openings. If you're into that, I'm getting a couple new decks. I'm going to learn those. We're going to do a whole thing. I also am slowly but surely incorporating astrological readings into the tarot because they are clearly connected. It's very obvious and understanding some of these archetypal energies related to planets and deities and all of this stuff is just cool and I had an astrologer do it for me and it really changed my life pretty quickly. So I'm going to be incorporating that as much as I can, while still being professional. I don't want to just offer a service and be like, "Yeah, I don't really know."

So once I really fully know, but if you're open to that and schedule a tarot reading one of the live ones, I will certainly do that. We can do your chart and I'll send you a copy of that. So I don't know. I'm just scaling up. Fun stuff. I got to get back to music. A lot of podcasting this week. I got to go string a base. I've been trying to do it for two weeks. I broke a string. The D string. Twice. What the fuck does that mean? What's the D? D is Spatasana. Second chakra. Sexual chakra. Keep breaking it. I don't know. Sex is good. Good sex. Okay. That's it for this episode. I will see you next week for sure. I'm not doing another one of these.

I say that. They're ends up being another one, but I'm not this week. I have so many episodes already recorded. I'm going to LA the beginning mid of November. So I will be there. There's no event or anything, but I will be seeing cool people here there and are cool. Let's hang out. If I'm fine. I know. I'm fucking busy. Seems like a long time to be there, but it's not really. All right. That's it. Lots of love. Happy imagining. [Music] [Music] [BLANK_AUDIO]